I recently had a situation where I found myself spiraling emotionally. This doesn’t happen to me often, but even people like me, who work with mindset and subconscious beliefs, can have their nervous system hijacked occasionally. Worry is such a useless activity. You use all that energy and you might as well throw it in the trash. It’s not productive or useful in any way – it just wears you out and impedes your ability to make good decisions.
Some suggestions.
I thought it might be helpful to share some ways to minimize the amount of time and energy spent when your emotions get high-jacked.
- Recognize what is happening and choose to change it. This is where I went off the tracks – I was so caught up in the event that I didn’t recognize what was going on.
- Use whatever tools are at your disposal to calm down. I have a wealth of these that I use, but they didn’t do me any good until I remembered to use them. There are so many choices out there. Here are a few, but there are tons of resources out there:
- Breath work
- Meditation
- Calm music
- Singing, dancing, or other physical movement
- Getting into nature
- Finding something that makes you laugh
- Going to sleep for a reset
- Postures designed to reduce stress
- Once you’ve centered yourself, decide how you want to move forward.
- Is there a problem to solve? Focus on the solution. Focusing on the problem just gets you back where you started. You attract more of what you focus on, so it’s the solution that you want to pay attention to.
- Do you want to think about it a different way? Here are some possibilities:
- Reframe your take on whatever is going on. Your subconscious gives you some default interpretations that may not be serving you well. Look at other ways to view the situation that may feel better.
- Decide how you want to be responding to the situation. Then think of examples of this preferred response. Go into those in detail – how it will look, how it will sound, how it will feel. Basically immerse yourself in each example so that your subconscious gets to understand what you prefer.
- Analyze what just happened and fact-check your reaction. This is like challenging your self-talk. You’re basically asking yourself if your perception is really what was happening.
- Identify if there are other ways to use your energy in a productive way so you’re not wasting it by being in a tail-spin. If there are, do those.
Sometimes you can’t do it alone.
When this happens to you, and you really want to stop the spin, consider looking into what the subconscious beliefs are that are allowing you to be high-jacked. I can help you do that and transform those beliefs into ones that support you better. Schedule a call and we can talk about how that would look.
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